Wednesday, December 21, 2011

The No Longer Wife

Life pulled me inside of it these last few months, and writing took a back seat. Not that there weren't enough things to keep me busy between family, friends, and work. Throw in a challenging new job and life gets really crazy.

Being one to always go above and beyond, we were clearly not satisfied with that level of crazy, and as you may know by now, the good doctor and I are amicably ending 20 years of being a couple, 16 of them as husband and wife.

It's not something we talked about - in fact, we kept our decision to ourselves for nearly 3 months as we worked out details. And then, we only told the fewest people we could, and agreed that the rest of the world would be on a need to know basis. To date, our friends and family have been amazing and respected our wishes that no one "take sides" - we've done our best to make them not regret that, and are doing pretty darn well at being co-parents and old friends.

The WPBT was a relief, in some respects. It was the first time we were out in the same place with that large a crowd of friends in our newly separated lives. And, amazingly, it worked. DrChako described it well, and those of you who first found out in Vegas took the news like champs. Hopefully it's a glimpse into how we do this for the rest of our lives.

It was also a relief because it freed my head up to write and being around friends gave me inspiration. Hopefully, I may revisit this blog more frequently, and have one more way to stay in touch with this amazing collective of people.

DrChako was kind enough to refer to me as the "amazing and increasingly poorly-named 'The Wife'" - I thank him for the compliment, and acknowledge that neither "The Wife" nor "MrsChako" aptly describe me in this current situation.

Taking suggestions - though I'm a little partial to the term he coined . . . "The No Longer Wife" . . .

Respectfully submitted,

The NL Wife

16 comments:

DrChako said...

You may use "The NL Wife" as often as you like, but I get a nickel for each one.

-DrC

SirFWALGMan said...

Sounds kind of basebally to me.. The National League wife? The Naked Lady Wife? heh. Ok I had to go there. Good luck with everything. Nice to see your still friends. Good luck with a new moniker.

Easycure said...

NL wife is good...No Limit, as it were.

And coming from someone going through the same thing: best of luck, I hope you are able to smoothly transition into the next phase of your life.

KenP said...

No tear but a sadness. You two have become friends. Friends I'll never see. But, the respect is there for who you both are. I am damn sure neither of you is Glisinda the Troll that Wolowitz did the nasty with under the bridge and over the Internet. (Big Bang Theory) You are real people that I respect and my best wishes go to you both.

P.S. You could go with Prince(ss) ... formerly known as The Wife.

lightning36 said...

I would suggest something like Packers Slug but that sounds a tad harsh.

I appreciated the conversation we had in Excalibur at WBPT. As always, I wish the best for you ... except in the case of the Packers ...

John G. Hartness said...

I actually had no idea until I got home and read Doc's blog, but I've been a little clueless and reclusive myself over the past few months (writing will do that to you). Thinking back on it, it was great to see you both, I'm very glad you're both behaving like adults about the whole thing and I love you both. If either of you need me, you know where to find me.

The Sister of DrChako and Mrs. Chako said...

Love Chuck's comment. I keep going back to some form of "Mrs. Chako". Hmmm...how about "M.G.-Money"? :)

BWoP said...

First thing I thought of when I saw NL Wife was also "No Limit" Wife. I guess that shows you how much I play poker! Need. Girls. Weekend. Stat.

Miss you!

BamBam said...

How about....
The Mistress - Life as I Choos

((((HUGS))))

Bayne_S said...

No doubt "Wasband" is much better term.

I will cotinue efforts to determine/trademark a better term for 1st wife.

whiskeytown said...

holy buckets - I was checking to see which of my blog links were dead but I was surprised to find this news esp. since I know you both on facebook - best of luck to you both

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Great blog post! keep it up! :D

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Lisa Parks said...

I'm late with this post but would love to know what was the title of the story? I would prefer it to be 'The Wife' though. Thanks

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